On January 1, 2018 Jac, Ruby & I became roommates. We were close BFFs bonded even closer by a 12 month lease. We gave each other smore’s nicknames based on our diverse skin tones. We had fun; we went out or stayed in; we did what great girlfriends do.

In just a month things began to change. One day Jac & I were hanging out near the fire pit of our shared home. Ruby looked through her bedroom window, then texted us saying we didn’t invite her.

When do you need an invitation to go to your own backyard, and hangout with the people you live with? This continued through the months. She’d get mad at us for hanging out in the living room without inviting her, or even picking up groceries without her. Even if she was at work at the time.​

When we did hang out together she was usually miserable, or complained we “dragged her into it.” She tended to look disappointed in photos

In April my twin (Kayla) and I booked a get away for our birthday. Ruby was invited several times over the months approaching July, but she continued to say she didn’t want to come. A week before the vacation our circle invited her one last time. She had a fit and said “It’s too late to invite me now, I can’t request off,” so we went without her. While we were away, she removed us from Snapchat so she wouldn’t have to see our vacation posts.

She then began making slanderous snaps about us now that we couldn’t view her story.

She even posted to Facebook about us.

An old friend of Ruby’s commented on the post asking someone to explain what was going on. When I told her what really happened she said she should have known it was something small.

She’d been harassing us the entire first day of the trip, sending message after message. We viewed her messages, and decided to pay her no mind and enjoy our time away. On the second day of our trip she messaged Jac & I saying “Thanks for leaving me on open.” She added the lie that the rent was due that day.

The rent would not be due until the day after we got back from the trip, and when we got back Jac & I payed our portion. Oddly enough, Ruby did not. She had gotten into an accident and told me she used the rent money to pay for the ticket. I relayed the message to our Landlord, right after she told me. A few days later Ruby claimed that’s not what she said. Either way, we had our portion and she did not. She got mad at Jac & I for telling her she will be paying the late fee, and refused to do so.

That same month she made more posts about Jac & I to Snapchat. She made a couple saying I’m a slut for my choices in fashion, and therefore am disloyal to my boyfriend;

A third post was made saying I’m “spoiled rotten” because my Dad bought me a brand new bed when we first moved in. He had also provided all the furniture in the common rooms of our house.

The final post was aimed at Jac because she had an anxiety attack at a party. She wound up taking a sick day from work, however, Ruby believed it was due to a hangover.

The posts were shown to us by another person, considering we were still removed from her Snapchat. 

In early September Jac had a family matter too attend to. She went back to her parents’ place for a couple weeks. I too was away, spending time with my boyfriend; leaving Ruby with the house to herself. Jac & I returned home to see Ruby had written on the fridge top to bottom about how angry she was that she cleaned the house by herself.

Normally we have a chore cycle where one person is assigned to one part of the house and we rotate. Because Jac and I weren’t there the rotation fell back on Ruby. We told her we didn’t understand why she was mad. She had the house to herself so she should have to clean up after herself. If it were truly that big of a deal she could have waited until we got home so the chore cycle would rotate to the proper people. She took our confusion of the situation for “not caring” and posted snaps saying that we never clean.

Once again someone else showed us this post because she has us removed from Snapchat.

Ruby had a habit of leaving left over food on the table, or atop of the fridge. She would then swear she had the food put away. There have been a few times that Jac & I found food remains after Ruby left a To-Go box out, and the cats enjoyed what they wanted from it. She once left a slice of pizza on our dining room table, and either the cats ate the slice, or she did (though she claims she did not, and had the slice “put away.”)

The next morning there was a note on the pizza crumbs, pointing fingers at Jac & I for the mess.

At this point I believe the whole thing was staged so she could make another slanderous post for her Snapchat. She then removed us from Facebook and Instagram as well. Our source on Snapchat was soon removed too.

Eventually the tension died down, but her posts did not. Ruby’s snaps became so persistent that our mutual friends began asking why Jac & I have been bullying her. Once again we were blind to her posts, and knew nothing of this “bullying.” In fact a couple days before I had given her a souvenir from an amusement park I’d visited.​

Upon hearing about her more recent posts, Jac & I decided to make a post of our own.​

We then created a Snapchat account to read what she’d been posting first hand. Ruby definitely had something to say about our post.

The irony in her post was evident. She was the one who removed us back in July, and had been mentioning us on her story since.​

In October everything seemed fine again. We were sitting in the living room planning out a costume party for Halloween. As the date approached she had forgotten to request it off. She begged to change the date, but none of our expected guests were available for the day she wanted.​

We wound up keeping the original plans, which infuriated her. When she arrived to the party late after work, she went to the backyard and called her mother. She told her mom that she knew nothing of the party (despite planning it for a month, then wanting to change the date). Little did she know, I was in the tent in the backyard and heard the entire conversation.​

The next morning our circle of friends hung out near the still burning fire pit. Jac & I invited Ruby to come hang out with us (since we learned we must invite her to her own backyard). She told us she was working on something and will be out when she was done. Jac & I lingered in her bedroom until she completed her task, then re-invited her. She declined our request to join us, and shortly after, the squad left the house. When Ruby thought the coast was clear she sent a group text​.

She claimed we “didn’t invite her,” then made a [fake] excuse as to why she declined. The only thing that was truthful was that there was no room in the car, which is why I stayed home. That immature group text prompted a confrontation about the lie she told her mother at the party. Despite still having something to say in the group text, she didn’t respond to my message until the next day.

Her words: “I don’t fucking know….” She lied to her mother for reasons unknown to herself. (Hope you’re reading this Gretchen).

The next day there was another post that made her choice clear.

By November I was fed up. I moved closer to my boyfriend, and had only returned to the house for Jac’s birthday. We all had few drinks and laughed together, and the morning after, Ruby invited us to go grocery shopping with her. It seemed like a gentle introduction into spending time with each other again. Jac said she’d pay for half the groceries since they are splitting the house. When we got to the supermarket Ruby fled from us. When Jac & I caught up to her, she’d take off again, nearly running into people with the shopping cart. Ruby never stopped for Jac’s input, so Jac had to do her own shopping. Her total was only thirteen cents shorter than what Ruby spent, but to Ruby it wasn’t fair. She still wanted Jac to pay her back half of what she spent, like she said she would. Jac said she’d happily give her the thirteen cents to make it even, but she wouldn’t pay anything beyond that. Ruby did what she does best and posted on Snapchat yet again.

I’d covered Ruby’s deposit when we first moved in and she said she’d pay me back “next check.” Since then I’ve covered a portion of her rent, and her electric bill just to keep us from getting evicted or living in the dark. I found it quite hypocritical that she has posted this about Jac, when for 11 months she’d been saying she’ll pay me back “next check.” She had only paid back a portion, and after seeing this I called her out on it. What she had to say was the most hypocritical thing yet.

Called out as the hypocrite she is, and she still made an excuse for her to do what she does. Her next snapchat post (though aimed at Jac & I) would be a post about herself.

By December I’d been out of that house for a month. No contact with Ruby since the day after Jac’s birthday, however, she was still posting about me.

Out of no where my ex sends me a screenshot of Ruby’s Tinder hookup profile. As far as I knew, she was still dating Devin, a friend I’ve known since grade school. I asked him if he and Ruby were still together and indeed they were. Funny how she bragged about loyalty, and made me out to be a slut for my alternative fashion sense. Devin admitted he hadn’t been happy and planned to dump her. It wasn’t much of my business so I stayed out of it. Halfway through the month, I asked how he was doing. We got to talking about his vehicles, old and new, when he mentioned he misses being “ridden.” He went on to ask me to hook him up with one of my friends in my area, then proceeded with a strange offer.

The answer was a three step “NO.” He dropped the suggestion and followed through with the conversation of getting hooked up with a friend of mine. I asked what he looks for in a woman and he said “As long as my partner has the energy to keep up.” (It was a bit more detailed than that, but this blog isn’t meant to be raunchy). I told him he needed someone exotic, and he said he’d try Ruby and I both, then proceeded to talk about me again.

He’d mentioned breaking up with her the two weeks earlier, but I didn’t know if that actually happened or not. The way he was talking to me sure seemed like they were done. I ran it back to my girl squad (minus Ruby) just to be sure. The news was they were definitely still together. The squad agreed if our boyfriends were sneaking around we’d want someone to tell us… whether the person telling us was our friend or not.

I sent her a message on Facebook Messenger telling her she needs to break up with him. She blocked me before I could send her the screenshots. She then posted a video to snapchat saying I’m trying to “fuck around in her relationship,” and break them up. Once again making me look like the bad guy.

I made my SECOND post about her that day.

She proceeded to share a post to Facebook saying “It sickens me that there are people who can make up so much lies about someone, and make themselves look so innocent and they destroy someone’s reputation all because they are jealous and pathetic. And so many people believe them without finding out the truth.”

Yet another post aimed at me, but was about herself. I decided my Christmas gift to the world would be the truth. And with the truth, a message:

Don’t let Ruby Jane stain your name.